With that large of a rod, you are returning more oil to tank on return stroke than the pump is suppling to split with. Any restriction, be it a small fitting dia, hose, relief valve, ect, is going to cause excessive pressure build up and excessive heat. Double check all fittings and hoses, if a smaller hose was used to replace the one that blew, it could be causeing your problem. Relief valve could be sticking or the spool inside your control valve isnt shifting all the way giving the olil a clear path back to tank.
When you where trying to work the valve with one hose unhooked, was the cylinder fully retracted or extended the direction you where trying to move it. If it was and still blew oil across the yard, then your cylinder is bypassing. If the cylinder wasnt in full retract or extend and had room left to move when you operated the control valve, you where just emptying the cylinder of whatever oil was already between piston and port. Retract cylinder all the way in and then disconnect the hose at the base of the cylinder, operate valve as if to retract cylinder even further, and see if it still blows oil out of the cylinder port. .