ericjeeper
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I do not think my wife ever notices my saws.. Until I stuck a pipe on one.. Then the questions came flooding.
After 19 years of marriage (to the same awesome lady) and 3 kids, a few suggestions:
1. No secrets. If you live close enough to maintain a long term relationship you wont be able to really hide anything anyway. If you can hide something then you really aren't that close.
2. No separate money. If you can't share then you have more serious issues.
3. She is the most important "thing" in the world - and she needs to know that. If she isn't, she will figure it out and you will bump down on her list too.
4. Be constantly on the lookout for how to make her happy and you will find that she will eventually do the same for you.
Saws are a lot of fun, but they won't nurse you through serious illness and if they are mishandled they are more likely to kill you than she is
When she starts counting saws, you start counting shoes....
It's a bit interesting to see the number of responses that go along the lines of "hide your purchases from her". Interesting because I was married to a woman that lived that lie for 12 years. Rock bottom was around the 8 year point when she nagged the crap out of me for a new car. I ran the numbers and figured we could do it pretty easy(I was making pretty good money at the time). So we dropped $24,000.00 on a demo Isuzu Rodeo. About 8 days later I found out she had run up one of our credit cards that I thought had just been sitting unused for emergencies and also taken out another one. Total credit runup? $17,000.00. So in the space of 8 days I found myself $41,000.00 in the hole. It's very difficult to recover from that deception. I spent the next 4 years paying down bills and watching her like a hawk. Eventually she got sick of me being so "controlling" and wanted a divorce. It turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to me. 6 years later and I'm happy as a clam.
Bottom line: If things work for you, great. But honesty and openess would have made my marriage work a lot better.
Congrats...
Don't "hide" stuff... it'll be the first step to a downward spiral called divorce.
Keep the communication lines open...
Gary
I don't know if I'm with you on this one. I could apologize sincerely for a chainsaw & she would forgive me.If you are hiding chainsaws, you might as well be hiding an affair with the "cute little thing at work".
Congrats...
Don't "hide" stuff... it'll be the first step to a downward spiral called divorce.
Keep the communication lines open...
Gary
:agree2::agree2::agree2:
You may never get better advice than those 2 replies!
If you are hiding chainsaws, you might as well be hiding an affair with the "cute little thing at work".
Deception is deception no matter what form it takes and is a symptom of a MUCH bigger problem.
If you want another saw, sit down with her and say "I'm going to buy another saw, What do I need to do in order to be able to afford it???"
If she tells you that the budget is tight and you need to pick up a part time job to be able to afford it, then the ball is in your court, do what you need to do.
Congratulations!!!
I hope happiness, health and prosperity for both of you forever.
Mike
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I don't know if I'm with you on this one. I could apologize sincerely for a chainsaw & she would forgive me.
"cute little thing at work" (doesn't exist), I don't think so.
Luckily, we don't have these issues!
ALL SERIOUSNESS!
THANKS GUYS!
You are all right! We have been together for some time now! I respect her and she me! It will take work! But we love the time we share together! Thanks guys for being cool! She has read all the posts! And now understands why I come here! AGAIN THANKS!!!!!!!!!
Open bar to all that posted!
THANKS!!!!!!!
I'm feeling a bit sophisticated tonight......I'll have an Amaretto sour!
Mike
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