Rocky,
I appreciate your passion for trees. Trust that I would not be a member of this website if I didn't have the same feelings. In other words, if I was the evil tree killer you believe me to be then I would not be here seeking your alls advice. I would just get the tree and if it didn't suit I would trim, prune or chop it down like you say I am going to.
Your interpretation of my post IS inaccurate.
You don't know me. Don't group me in with the customers you have dealt with. I grew up in an old farm house which had 6 or 7 fully matured silver maple trees in our yard. They towered over our two story house and we enjoyed their beauty and shade. I know first hand at the work it takes to care for such giants. Not only did they drop plenty of leaves but we had several big limbs fall on our house and in our yard due to windstorms. We knew, however, that it was worth the risk and effort to have such a cool and shady place to live.
I have since grown up and moved away from home. Now, would I plant silver maples at my new house? No. Why, because I don't like to rake their leaves? No. Because I don't like the soft wood. Does that make me a tree hater. No.
I am trying to get all the information about trees that I can, so I don't make a mistake and put a tree in that I will not like. Reason being, I am not the guy you think I am and I would not cut it down or prune or anything. I would stick it out and live with a tree that I don't like because some yahoo didn't give me good advice about it!!
I would like to plant all bur oaks in my yard, because that seems to fit the type of tree I like best, plus I can easily grow them free from acorn. However, I would like to have SOME variety in my yard for disease protection and appearance, so I have thought about the white oak (again free and easy acquisition).
Thats way more information than I had wanted to share with you guys, but you asked for it!